Aubrey A. Springfield, UT
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Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Oh Baby!
I have one child, a 15 month old little girl. My pregnancy was AWFUL! I was sick the entire time, everything swelled up and hurt, she was 2 weeks over due and my 22 hour labor was exhausting, full of complications and all around terrible. My husband wants 4 kids, and I used to as well, but the idea of doing that again makes me cringe. I really have no idea what to do. I'm so scared that my next pregnancy will be just as bad or even worse. I want more kids and my husband says it will be better but I'm so scared to take a chance.
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For some reason last night when I posted a comment, nothing happened... so if it shows that I delted a comment it's because I did a "test comment."
It's hard to give someone advice about this, especially when you don't know them personally. (It's still hard then too)This really is a decision that only you and your husband can make, and just because someone says that they're second or thrid pregnancy was so much better than their first doesn't really give you the comfort you're looking for.
If it were me, I would pray about it, I would voice my concerns, and ask for a knowledge and understanding of what I am supposed to do.
I can say though that if I had based my decision to have more children off of my first pregnancy, I probably wouldn't be expected another baby in a few weeks. But each person is different. You certainly shouldn't have another baby just to make your husband, or anyone else happy.
I also have rough pregnancies, and as long as there's no grave danger to mom and/or baby, all I have to say is..
Bringing a sweet little person into this world is ALWAYS worth it!
Aubrey, my heart goes out to you. After my first child was born, I quickly decided she would be an only child because of how terrible I felt everything on every aspect went. I spent the last 3 months of the pregnancy on bedrest, violently sick the beginning of it, horrible deliver, complications in recovery, it was a mess.
But I met a wonderful woman who helped me to see that a lot of what I felt, was because of my own stress and fears. And it's a cycle. Plus, to consider more children before I had processed the trauma, which it was, meant that I just wasn't ready. Emotionally or physically. I had a good heart to heart with myself, prayed a lot, and really tried to listen to what was inside my soul. I knew I wanted more children.
So when I was ready to make that choice, I also had to work very hard at keeping my thoughts around all of the beautiful things, the joys I had to look forward to, and the process that nature takes without complications when we just get ourselves out of the way. Sometimes we think too much.
If you truly feel your purpose of birthing chilren is done, that is absolutely perfect. But I urge you to spend some personal time and make that choice out of peace instead of fear.
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